more on hair
May 21, 2008 at 11:21 am (Uncategorized)
Tags: hair
Okay, I really need to talk about my hair again today. Superficial yes, but I don’t care. I’ve already told you a little of my coloring woes, but this is more about stylists.
Here’s the background. I have curly hair. Not super duper curly like one of my sisters, nor just slightly wavy like the other. It’s somewhere in between. I usually encourage the curl instead of fighting it. When I fight it, it just gets fuzzy. Please don’t tell me to use anti-frizz products - I’ve tried them all. Products tend to make my hair flat and greasy. As much hair as I have, the individual strands are very fine and my scalp is oily so I have to wash it every day. I rarely blow dry it, but when I do, I use a diffuser and fluff up the curls.
I have a hard time finding a stylist that understands how to cut my hair. I always have layers in it to combat “the tent” look, you know what I’m talking about. But long layers so I don’t have helmet head either. The thing about layers though, is that I hate it when you can see them, a la, “the shelf”. I like them to blend. It’s a rare stylist that knows how to do invisible layers, and when I find one, I stick with her.
Bless you if you’re still with me, but I went through this whole looong story to say I finally found a great stylist this week after living here for over 2 years. I really love the cut. However. Why, why, oh why must every stylist I’ve ever had attempt to blow my hair out straight??!! Seriously, she just gave me a cut specifically to make it curly nicely, and I’d like to see how that worked out!
Please, someone enlighten me about this. Is it that they glimpse a head of curly hair and see a challenge? Are they taking pity on me because I tell them I usually air dry? Do they think I don’t have the knowledge to blow it out so they’re going to show me how? Are my curls actually ugly and they’re trying to give me a hint? Is it that they’re just trying to be nice and pamper me in their weird way? Do they think they’ve combed out all the curl during the cutting process and they don’t want to re-wet it and start over?
Isn’t curly hair finally back in style? So what’s up with the straightening? Someone out there, if you know the answer, please tell me!! I really want to know.
Kaza said,
May 22, 2008 at 6:52 pm
Oh my lord yes! This is one of my pet peeves too. In fact, I just (and by just I mean three or four months ago, as I’m terribly lazy about hair upkeep) found a stylist who, when I told her how I wear it, proceeded, to my utter astonishment and delight, to just put a bit of product in and then dry it with the diffuser to ENCOURAGE my curls (my hair is like yours, something squarely in between nice curls and nice waves). When I mentioned my surprise she said she loves it when someone wears it naturally because blow outs take forever. So I do think it’s about the whole pampering and finishing thing. They think they have to do it. Or it may be that they prefer the whole blow out ‘do and want to preserve their reputation? I’m not sure.
I agree on the invisible layers thing. Here in the south I’ve seen a lot of the wedge cut where the layers are really obvious. It’s a kind of soccer mom cut that works on certain people but not on me.
catnip35 said,
May 22, 2008 at 9:17 pm
Kaza, I am so jealous you have stylist that diffuses. No. Like, seriously jealous. Um, are you sure you aren’t my long lost twin??
nicole said,
May 23, 2008 at 11:21 am
I am glad you are happy with your cut…
I enjoyed my cut for about 48 hours, then I remembered what it was like to have to fix it EVERY day… no more pony tails
Another thing, i can now see my new grey friends a whole lot better. Time for color. Thinking about highlights for the summer.
Swistle said,
May 24, 2008 at 6:23 pm
I have really THICK hair. And stylists are always trying to get me to thin it. But my friend who has thin hair, they’re always trying to help her THICKEN it. I do not understand it. I think you’re right that they see a challenge. Also, at my stylist, they charge more if they blow-dry it for me; if yours is the same, she might be racking up the bill.